QUESTION: CAN MY SPOUSE BE PUNISHED FOR EXTRAMARITAL RELATIONS DURING OUR MARRIAGE?
Normally, neither spouse is "punished" by the Court for extramarital relationships. When admissible evidence of "marital waste" is offered, the Court does consider the "waste" when trying to equitably divide marital assets and debts. "Marital waste" would have to be materially significant for it to be relevant. A few hundred dollars spent on dinners and movies may be considered irrelevant. When a spouse buys an extramarital partner a car that costs several thousand dollars or takes the partner on a cruise costing several thousand dollars, that may be materially significant. If the money spent is clearly identifiable as marital funds (e.g., preseparation marital savings) that were clearly identified as spent on the extramarital partner, offset may be granted by the Court. Claims unsupported by proper exhibits (records) or admissions by the spouse, may be disregarded.
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